Tuesday, July 09, 2013

Funny girls

My childhood friend, Sergio, is in town to babysit his mother Irma and his sister's mother-in-law Isabel while his sister takes a much needed vacation.

Irma is 86 and Isabel is also in her 80's, but, we don't get a confirmation from her, just a chuckle.

Irma + Isabel

Irma and Isabel both live with Sergio's sister Nieves, her husband Paco, and their son Frankie, in a comfortable home in New Jersey. Both Irma and Isabel suffer from senility. They're a hoot. Really.

Irma + Isabel


Irma and Isabel inhabit a sprawling, finished basement. Two shifts of caretakers attend to them until 5 or 6 when the family takes over the task of looking over these two funny girls. The funny girls have two yorkie sidekicks, Motica and Noey who bark because they're very small.

Motica
Noey


Both Irma and Isabel have a special predilection for cleaning up and putting things away in the most unlikely places. Here is where they differ: Irma LOVES mangoes. She will hide these from Isabel so only Irma can get at them when she remembers.  Isabel prefers to gather garbage in her drawers when she's cleaning.  She will only put the garbage back in the garbage when Paco, her son says it's ok to do so. They both love to make and drink Cuban coffee.  They watch Spanish TV, but, mainly just as background noise to their overactive imaginations.

Irma is quiet and subdued while Isabel is loud and assertive. Irma attends to every last button in her dress as well as Isabel's, whose skirt is a little askew.
Irma seems to vaguely remember me. Sergio is her prince, so if he says I'm his old friend, then she likes me too. Isabel asks if I'm married, I tell her I'm divorced, just to get her talking. That sets off a verbal explosion of sorts. During the time I go to the bathroom, Isabel tells Sergio that I'm not to be trusted. This may have something to do with me being a divorcee...maybe she's reacting to my limping? Oy vey.

The funny girls only speak Spanish. As Sergio and I comfortably switch off to English and to talk about our lives, they mainly speak amongst themselves. At times they seem to be watching us, although it's hard to say whether they're actually observing.  When they get bored, they get up and do some dusting or make Cuban coffee again. The funny girls interact in a funny way with each other. When Isabel is speaking about an old man who escaped from his house when she was a little girl in Cuba, Irma makes faces behind her back and signals that Isabel is looney. Isabel is oblivious to this and heartily enjoys recounting her Cuban past.

The funny girls have adapted to their living quarters and they don't like to venture beyond it.  They're also very funny and concerned about their bedtime. They would go to bed at 6PM, but, they're not allowed. They would get up at dawn and disrupt the household's sleeping patterns.

If the brain is a record player and life has a repetitive pattern to it, then my guess is that senility makes kind of its own sense. It's a different sense of reality. For us, so rooted in our reality, it's hard to discern where the funny girls'  cognitive functioning begins or ends. More importantly, I think is whether to engage in this alternate reality with the funny girls. Do you smoke the whole joint with them or do you do like our past president and not inhale? Like everything in life, it's a fine balance.

1 comment:

Unknown said...

I love this. It is such a clever thought-provoking commentary about a moment in life or the confusion there in. It brings some clarity or at least definition to the situation in hand.